i was using the central computer in the house and went to check my e-mail, my husband was logged in and there were some e-mails between him and another girl. they were talking about meeting each other at the local bar, playing some pool, and having a few drinks. i confronted him and asked why he was meeting her when he has me. he told me not to worry and quit being jealous cause they’re just friends and sometimes he just needs to be with a friend and chill. i asked why he hadn’t told me about this friend and introduced me. he said it just hadn’t crossed his mind to because her and i are so different. (i’m a full-time student double majoring in acct. and bus. admin. she’s a bar-hopper and a bit wild, he says) i didn’t feel like arguing with him, so i let it slide, but it did get my curiosity up and i checked (not log-in) to his facebook and myspace accounts. he’d told at least 4 other girls that they’re hot, sexy, gorgeous, have great racks, that he’d love to get a hold of them, etc… i confronted him about that too, he got mad at me for snooping in his private business, saying it’s not my concern what he says or does. i asked him flat out if he’s cheating. he said no, but he bets i am since i’m trying to accuse him. i’m definitely not ok with him leaving other women sexual comments. i don’t like him having a secret friend. i would not do that, i have more integrity than that. i don’t have proof he’s actually had an affair (yet) but i fear it’s very close to that. how should i approach this without seeming like a total nagging b!tc#?!
we’ve been married nearly 10 years, have 3 kids, a regular sex-life about 4-5 times a week, he’s 35, i’m 27 and i think i still look good.